Prime Rib for Thanksgiving - Miguel Mayorga photo STUFF101

Clutter–It’s All in Your Head

That’s a rather bold statement! Yet, when you think about it, our relationship with clutter—physical, mental, and more begins in our mind. It’s up to us to choose what we want to believe and do.

The holidays are about food. For Thanksgiving, we’re focused on turkeys and other bountiful dishes that show our creative talents in the kitchen. Okay, maybe that’s pushing it a bit too far for some. Last year, I wanted to introduce my friends to a traditional Thanksgiving with homemade stuffed turkey, cranberry sauce, potatoes, and more. Eric’s family joined us and we made sure to have traditional American Thanksgiving fare. This year, I learned that one my friends really doesn’t care for turkey. It’s a good thing I didn’t find a turducken.  Turducken, according to some, is a Creole creation of chicKEN, stuffed inside a DUCk, stuffed inside a TURkey.

Prime Rib for Thanksgiving - Miguel Mayorga photo STUFF101

We created our own Thanksgiving meal with a delectable chicken dish prepared in a special sauce made with blended sour cream, milk, and poblano chilis with garlic and onions fried in butter dotted with diced poblano chilis; roasted ribeye with garlic cloves painstakingly inserted in the meat; confetti-mashed potatoes—my creation of steamed buttery potatoes mashed with minced garlic, green onions, rosemary, salt, and a bit of broth with dots of sweet potato mixed in); and steamed broccoli. We thought about making a ham, too. Why overdo it? We had more than enough.

CLUTTER Is in My Mind

Through last year, I’d start each holiday or other special-event meal wanting to try everything. Like a kid, I didn’t want to miss anything and even went back for second helpings. This seemed to work in my younger days. The older I get the less I choose to eat. How fortunate we are to have enough food that we worry about gaining weight. It’s embarrassing when we consider how many people go hungry.

Appetizers for Thanksgiving - STUFFology101

This year, I’ve been more aware of my habits. With non-judgmental cooking partners, who didn’t chastise me for nibbling—If you eat all that now, you won’t have room for dinner! —I was able to sample bits of dinner before we actually sat down to eat our Thanksgiving meal.

I prefer to nibble instead of sitting down to a big meal. When it was time for dinner, I grabbed a small salad bowl and savored the food I chose. I did not return for a second helping. but did set aside some leftovers.

I took a two-mile walk afterward.

I had a lot to be thankful for this Thanksgiving. One, to have good food to eat in a manner that is best for me. Two, to share with people who give me space to be. Three, to be healthy enough despite an injury, to be able to walk outdoors.

Junk Mail of the Mind

Mental clutter can be present in mysterious ways. For me, receiving junk mail addressed to my dad unleashes a flood of memories. He died in November of 2016. When I see junk mail for him, it is like picking an emotional scab.

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How do I get my mind out of the clutter?

Regarding the junk mail (physical clutter), I contact the sender through the return envelope, phone number, or website to alert them to stop sending mail. Be patient, this takes time. Then shred or recycle the actual mail.

Regarding the mental clutter, I focus on good memories of my dad. To clear my head, I will talk to my wife or daughters, sharing a specific event about my dad that only I know. This has the dual benefit of further processing his loss for me and bringing my family closer to my dad with a usually humorous memory.

Get that junk mail out of your house and your mind.

Cluttered Garage - ER

Constant Clutter Conspiring to Constrict Your Life?

Help is on the way!  During this COVID-19 period of limiting travel and social contacts, STUFFology 101, co-author, Eric Riddle and I met to discuss reinstituting regular STUFFology 101 decluttering tips to help you while we’re all spending more time at home.

With all this time, we have the cleanest homes, right?

Nooooo?

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While we try to set a good example as STUFFologists, we’ve also been dealing with our mental and physical clutter, while balancing the temporal cluttergory of our lives.

Months from now, WILL WE regret wasting away our days and weeks, not having used this valuable time to get things done?

Why have regret, when we can take steps, starting now?

Eric and I will post short digestible tips each Monday at 8:00AM PST.  Visit us for real-life tips you can apply to the cluttergories in your life.

We invite you to join and engage with us by sharing your own experiences.

Together we will get our minds out of the clutter.